I haven't updated in quite a time and thought now would be a good time to do that.
With the exception of yesterday and today the last couple of weeks have been amazing. As I've been telling anyone who asks (and some who don't) last week was the week I got the promotion, I got the girl and I got the laptop (which some say is not on the same level as a promotion or engagement, but I argue I'm a computer engineer and this is the latest and greatest so it is actually quite huge)
PromotionI was really stressed out for the weeks leading up to my vacation to Minnesota to see Colleen - Not only was I behind, but I just endured a PTO end of quarter which is always stressful, and I had to fit in doing a weeks worth of work with packing, laundry and cleaning in about three days. I also had a very expensive piece of jewelry to worry about in the process.
I started to see the light through the clouds immediately before and during vacation though when my Spe pulled me aside and said I needed to get my new pap plan (aka - I've been promoted) I had a quick talk with him and hooray, I'm moving up on the GS scale. Unfortunately in the government this is only mixed news as my workload will go up almost 30% and my pay will only go up 10% - I am however one step closer to being able to work anywhere in the country which will be amazing.
Vacation Finally Starts!7/1 - I arrived in Minnesota and finally got to see Colleen again. Long distance has it's downsides but both of us are more than willing to put in the effort which is very nice. We spent a rather uneventful night just watching Harry Potter and crappy TV
7/2 - Went to see Get Smart which was actually a pretty good movie. It wasn't completely true to the original series but I didn't really expect it to be. They did have the cone of silence and a couple of familiar lines like "missed it by THAT much" and "We've got this place surrounded by [insert large reinforcement group]"/"No you don't"/"Would you believe [insert smaller reinforcement group]"/"I think not"/"Would you believe [insert humorously small reinforcement group]" I'd say it's worth a watch especially to fans of the original show. We also headed to dinner at a pretty nice restaurant near Colleen's place. While half of me wishes we had dinner here after I received permission from Colleen's parents, the other half of me thinks how cliche it would have been to propose in a restaurant. - oh well.
7/3 - Colleen and I went to the Mall of America to check out the new and improved amusement park. (They now have 4 roller coasters in the Mall of America including one that loops 3 times which is absolutely insane!) We didn't go on anything because Colleen is not too adventurous when it comes to thrill rides, but it's not that big of a deal to me. I just gave her some crap about it.
We also had dinner with Colleen's parents which is where I wanted to ask for Mike and Kay's permission.
All of Colleen's immediate family was there including Kate and Lance (sister and brother in law who now live in Vegas) Dinner ended and I still hadn't had a chance to ask either Mike or Kay when Mike said he had to go get his haircut. I couldn't go with him and I wouldn't have had enough time to grab him before he left so I had to make sure we stayed untill after he got back.
Kate and Kay went into the kitchen in the meantime so I excused myself and went into the kitchen while Colleen and Lance talked. I came up behind Kay and said:
"You know Kay, I really love your daughter"
she replied: "Well that's good"
I then said: "Would I have your blessing if I asked for her hand"
The simultaneously both Kay and Kate let out an "oh my god" that increased in both volume and pitch with every word. We then began speaking in loud whispers as to how I intended to ask, when, where, If I had the ring with me, etc, etc. There were smiles on both of their faces for the rest of the night and Kate agreed to also try her best to keep Colleen around for Mike's return and to keep her occupied for a few minutes to give me the chance to ask. That conversation went something like this:
Kay - "hey Michael, I think Bruce has something to ask you"
Me - (looking to make sure Kate and Colleen are out of earshot) "I was wondering if I would have your blessing if I were to ask for your daughter's hand"
Mike - "Wow, this is unexpected"
Now that left me a little bit worried at first, and I never got a straight yes out of him, but I found out later neither did Lance. I think that was more of a metric of raising two very independent daughters and being temporarily stunned. He did seem to quickly come around although I didn't get a chance to ask him if that meant yes before Colleen came back.
The Big MomentWe got back to Colleen's place pretty late that night and (even though in retrospect I probably should have waited) I ended up proposing in her apartment. Between me not being able to wait, Kay not being able to keep a secret for terribly long and Katie wanting to see the ring before she left for Vegas again, I jumped right to it - admittedly very willingly.
I went to plug in my cellphone (which luckily I needed to do and had a valid excuse to head to my bag) I grabbed the ring and headed back up. She was sitting and I decided to kneel in front of her (it's actually quite natural for me to because of the height difference as we're about eye-to-eye if she's sitting and I'm kneeling. Now we have this thing - which I know is outrageously cheesy, but it's our thing damnit. One of us says "hey guess what" the other says "what" and then the first answers "I love you." So this is how it went:
We were about ready to sit and watch How It's Made - which in my own defense is a hott show for us engineering types.
I kneeled, kissed her on the forehead and said "Hey Guess What?"
she said "what?"
and I said "I love you."
She responded "oooh, I love you too babe."
I then kissed her on the head agaid and said "Hey Guess what else?"
"What?"
"I loved hanging out with your family tonight too"
She said "I'm glad you get along with everyone so well - do you want me to scoot over so you can sit?"
I said "Oh, no... not yet"
She then started to suspect something - I kissed her on the head one more time and said: "Hey guess what"
and in a more suspecting voice she said "what?!"
I said "I want to make sure I have plenty of time with you and your family in the future" then producing the ring I asked "Will you marry me"
Then, the moment that momentarily stopped me dead.
She responded "You can't do this now!!!"
She had thought both that I had not asked permission and additionally that the current location was inappropriate for the occasion as she sees little romance in her current apartment. I started to explain the whole story about asking her parents and explained that I couldn't wait to propose to her any longer and the romance was at least partially restored to the scenario.
She smiled wide and then asked me "so, is that mine" while pointing on the ring, and immediately became much more giggly which didn't stop till well into the next day. It was amazing seeing her so happy. We had fun getting used to the term Fiancée (and also making fun of it) for the next couple of days too.
I'm a little bit remorseful that I didn't wait till a more romantic time, but the only time that may have been more appropriate would have been fireworks if we even ended up going (Colleen and I didn't go, but I may have been able to convince her - although I'm less sure I could have done that without her suspecting something)
7/4 - Colleen's giggling didn't subside till later in the night. :-)
We had dinner with her parents, sister and brother in law again. It was a rather relaxing day watching the Twins, the DC fireworks show on TV and eating... lots of eating.
Golfing with the future in-laws7/5 - The boys (Mike, Lance and I) had some golfing to do - we already had a tee time set up for that morning. And the ladies didn't originally have a plan, but after the previous day's news it quickly turned to Wedding dress shopping. Both Lance and I lost to Mike but it turns out we were a great match for each other. I ended up edging him out by a single stroke when all was said and done. It was a great time though because I hadn't been golfing in around 4 years!
Colleen also had a great time wedding dress shopping from what she said. She really seemed to enjoy the bonding time with her mother and sister. (I'm also kind of glad I asked when I did because that gave them the chance to take the initial look at dresses.)
My parents showed up for dinner that night. When they did I introduced them to my Fiancée Colleen - which they got a kick out of. We had dinner and talked well into the night. Kate decided my mother was to reserved and should speak up more - Yeah, Right :-)
7/6 - We met my parents for brunch around 11 where she decided that she had never been to an IKEA and absolutely needed to go. We headed over and wandered through. They ended up getting and endtable and some other minor things.
After that we headed to the Mall of America being right across the street. They wanted to see all the new roller coasters in the mall so we went almost immediately to the center park where (I still can't believe this happened) we talked Colleen into riding the looping rollercoaster. If you want to see it in action
you can catch it right here.
We had a few extra tickets so my dad and I went on
another roller coaster there. While we were in line I ran into Matt - one of Colleen's friends from highshool who I had met. I said Hi and that Colleen and I were engaged. He said that was awesome and wanted to see her to say hi, so after the right he said we should go get her and come up the exit to see him. We got my whole family there and he ended up giving us all a free ride (which Colleen went on - I couldn't believe that either!)
Collen and I had a relaxing afternoon and night to ourselves after waving goodbye to my parents. It really was good to see them and I'm glad they could get up there to see me. The next morning I was off to the airport very early so I had to say goodbye to my Fiancee.
Limited Release Laptop ObtainedRight after I got back I ordered a laptop which was to be released that day. I did manage to get a hold of one just barely. It's 2.3 pounds, 10 inches by 8 inches, has a battery life of 5.5 hours and is only $500 bucks!
More on that purchase is now here. It should be here tomorrow (7-15) so I am excited for that!
Wall Street Journal InterviewTo add to an already amazing week, I was contacted via Facebook by a reporter from the Wall Street Journal. This reporter was juggling around a couple of ideas for a story about spontaneous improv such as what I've done with the DC Defenestrators. I called her up and she immediately set up a half-hour phone interview with me later on that day.
She asked me about the effort to set up events, how I get people involved, why our group does what we do, where I get ideas, my background - both family and personal. I of course didn't mind sharing. I think she was trying to pigeon-hole this into a political movement at first, but I was very clear that as a group avoided political statements. We have very diverse group members and really I'd like to strive to keep it that way. I don't ever want to exclude someone because of any sort of belief.
It sounds like she's going to keep an eye on our next event which is coming up on the 26th and if an article coes come of it, she'll let me know... which I must admit would be pretty cool!
And the bad - Back ProblemsWith all that was going well in my life it was about time for some pain and suffering and I actually messed up my back enough to warrant a trip to the ER. That happened yesterday (7-13) and I'm still in quite a bit of pain, but fortunately the pain meds have been working. I hope the back dude they referred me to does something, because it sucks having such a fragile back like I do.
It happened because I was lifting a heavy box of computer components to a top shelf in my apartment. I had it resting on my chest and was ready to push up to get it above my head. I got it above the shelf, but not fully on it when I realized I couldn't move my right arm any further and was already suddenly in excruciating pain. The box started to slide back towards me because I had to take my right hand down... so I gritted my teeth, pushed the box safely on the shelf and quickly went to my bed and collapsed.
After a half hour of watching TV trying to lay as comfortably as possible (with little success)I got up to take a few Ibuprofen and drifted to sleep for a couple hours.
Colleen called and convinced me I should go get it checked out so I did. The pain meds were wearing off by the time I went in to get X-Rayed and that was pretty bad, but they prescribed a couple of muscle relaxants and horse-pill sized Ibuprofen. I'm doing much better but of course there's always bad to go with the good.
I must admit the previous week much more than made up for it. I don't recall a week that I've been happier than the one I spent with my future wife and our families.